The Making of a Man
Part 1

Discouraged about your mothering accomplishments?
Feeling inadequate with what you have to give?
Wondering how to make a man out of the child you’ve been given?
Consider this mom.
Her mother was shunned when she was born, a baby out of wedlock.
She was raised by an aunt and uncle.
She had no schooling. Her “X” marked her name on any signed deed.
She lived deep in the wood, knowing few people, having no friends.
She married a drifter, who worked only when hunger drove him.
While she held her ragged dress together with wild thorns, her husband bought silk suspenders on credit and paid three dollars for a sword.
After attempting several town jobs, each failing, her husband took her deeper into the woods.
He purchased land on “the barrens.” Land the Indians burned for buffalo pastures.
Few people had the poor judgment to settle there.
On these lonely barrens, in the winter of 1809, this woman bore a son.
Snow blew through the cracks of their hunter’s hut, covering both mother and baby.
In 1816 when the boy was seven, her husband bartered the farm for four hundred gallons of corn whisky and moved his family farther west to the wild, desolate forests of Indiana.
When they arrived, the first snow of the season was falling.
He built a three-sided shed. (Today’s Indiana farmer wouldn’t even winter his cattle in such a shelter, but her husband felt it was good enough for his family.)
That winter, 1816-1817, was the severest, most violent in Indiana’s history.
This mom slept with her son and daughter like dogs, curled up in a heap of leaves and bearskins dumped on a damp, dirt floor huddled in a shed.
She had no butter, milk, eggs, fruit, vegetables, or bread to feed her children.
They ate only wild game and nuts.
When her husband tried to raise hogs, bears ate them.
Her husband finally built a cabin for his family in 1818.
It had four sides, no floor, no windows, no door.
A dirty bearskin hung over the doorway.
Inside was dark and foul.
She fell ill after nursing a neighbor a mile and half away with a malady known as “milk sick.”*
Her head swam, sharp pains in her abdomen brought severe vomiting.
Her hands and feet were cold.
Her vitals burned as if on fire.
She couldn’t drink enough water.
After two days, her husband, hearing a dog howl outside the cabin, said she’d die.
Calling her son and daughter to her, she begged them “to be good to each other, to live as she taught them, and to worship God.”
Those were her last words. She died seven days later, on October 5, 1818.
But these two motherless children remembered her words and cared for each other.
The girl cooked.
Having no knives or forks, they ate with their fingers.
The boy kept the fire going and carried water from the spring a mile away.
Since water was so scarce, they neither bathed nor washed their clothes.
Their beds were made of leaves and flea-infested skins.
The only light inside their dark home came from the fireplace or burning hog fat.

Did this mother live in vain?
No one remembers what she looked like. Not even the color of her hair or eyes.
Yet her son remembered her instruction. He honored truth. And was kind to all.
Who was this mother who instilled integrity in her son even at the cost of his own happiness?
Who, not only taught but lived, good will to all, regardless of how she was treated?
No one would remember even her name, except her son became our nation’s 16^th president.
This mother’s name was Nancy Hanks Lincoln.

*Now known to be caused by livestock eating white snakeroot. The poison transfers to humans in milk.

Carnegie, Dale. 1932, 1959. Lincoln the Unknown. Garden City, NY: Dale Carnegie and Associates, Inc.

Klein, Christopher. 2014. "The Two Mothers Who Molded Lincoln." History.com. May 9. Accessed April 24, 2018. https://www.history.com/news/the-two-mothers-who-molded-lincoln The Two Mothers Who Molded Lincoln.

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What Is Man? reprint
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How Do You See Sin?
Marriage Is a Covenant before God
Are You Precious?
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Happily Ever After
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Reminders of What's Important
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God's Boundaries
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Mom
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Unity of the Brothers
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Are You Scatterbrained?
How Good Are You?
Looking for Something Good To Read?
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When God Is Silent
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Using Stories to Discipline
The Danger of the Wrong Story
Using Stories to Teach Lessons
God is in charge of the future
November Dare Joy Challenge
Ungratefulness
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Looking for Jesus
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Jars of Clay
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How Do You Get Strong Faith?
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How Do You Think Like Jesus?
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Pain—What's It Good For?
Why Marry?
Consider the Robin
One Life Who Made a Difference
What Day Are You Living In?
Interrupted by God
Is Jesus Really the Answer to Everything?
Are You Beat Up?
What's Your Hurry?
Are You a Manipulator?
Are You Salty?
Are You Condemned?
Trying to Understand?
Do You Expect Answers to Your Prayers?
Do You Eat Your Stress?
Need Focus?
Going through Trouble?
Immanuel—God with Us
Looking for a Relationship?
When God Says, "No!"
What Do You Do with Left-Overs?
How Great Is Your God?
Are You Needy?
How Do You See Sin?
What Do Your Words Mean?
Is Evil Overwhelming You?
Those Aha Moments
Is Your Soul Happy?
Are You Ignored?
Looking for the God Moment
Do You Know Truth from Almost Truth?
I Believe in Jesus—What Now?
Do You Have Your "Son"-Glasses On?
Less Is More
Singing His Praise
Are You Trying To Do It All?
What Do You Do with All These Prayer Requests?
Have a Problem?
Do You Know How to Pray?
Looking for God in Every Moment
Are You Receptive to God's Blessings?
Tell the Senate: Mothers Aren't Birthing People
Is Your Life Complicated?
How Do We Fight Evil?
Fearfully and Wonderfully Made
Giving Up or Taking Away
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Are You a Dripping Faucet?
What's Your Testimony?
The Final Move
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Are Your Prayers Answered?
I Choose Joy
What Have You Learned from Your Hardship?
Who Are You Trying to Change?
What's Your Five-Year Plan?
The Danger of "Aloneness"
My Colors
Are You a Whiner?
Are Your Works Approved?
Do You Think You're Stressed?
Is Your Soul Feeling Ragged?
God Speaks to the Heart of the King
What about the Details?
Have You Felt the Long-Suffering of God?
How Does God Lead You?
Do You Have Enough?
Don't Carry More than You Need
Cast the Seed
God Is Faithful
Are You Deceived?
Are You Essential?
Are You Safe?
Are You Tired of the Same Old Thing?
Does the World Make Sense?
Have You Seen God's Majesty?
Do You Feel Judged?
If You Only Had One More Day To Live
Are You Understood?
Do You Long for the Word of God?
Slow Down and Smell the Dead Leaves
Are You Hospitable?
Our Heritage Is Bought by Blood
Are You Disturbed?
Are You Depressed?
I Did It My Way
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The Simple Life
Do You Have the Right Words?
Did Your Dream Die?
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Confessions of a Desperate Mom
Saving for Tomorrow
A Wedding Remembered
Who Will Stand in the Gap?
Are You a Protector or a Ruler?
Who Are You?
Are You an Image Bearer or a Wad of Cells?
Are You a Watchman?
Where Do You Find Meaning?
The Lamb of God as Told by a Scribe
What Love Is This?
Remember: The Symbols of Passover Explained
Tea and Rest
Do You Have Peace?
What Makes a Marriage Work?
When Life Is Awful
Are You Strong Enough?
Rules
Seasons
Be Faithful through Suffering
Do You Know the Word?
Wake Up! Strengthen What Remains
Are You Spit in God's Mouth?
Is Jezebel in Your Midst?
Do You Stand Against Satan Himself?
Are You Tired of Being a Mom?
What in the World Is Happening?
It's Not My Story
How Would Your Faith Compare?
Are You Sinking?
Are You a Rule Follower?
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The Worldview that Makes the
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What Does It Take To Know the
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Do the Scriptures Burn You?
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How Secure Are You?
How Do You Respond To Stupid People?
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​Dear Master of Hands
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Just the Mother-In-Law
A Mom Who Knew Her Job
Letting Go of my Fourth Son
Making a House a Home
How Do I Pray?
Picking up Acorns
Changed by God
Last Times
Are You a Failure?
What To Do Now?
Are You Tired of the Same Old Thing?
What's in a Book, Anyway?
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A Wedding Remembered
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Stages of Parental Control
Homeschooling Myths Debunked
Seasons
Do You Know the Word?
Wake Up! Strengthen What Remains
Is Jezebel in Your Midst?
Are You Tired of Being a Mom?
A Day in a Mom's Life
What Talents Are You Wasting as a Mom?
What Have I Learned as a Mom?
What's in It for Me?
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The Making of a Man part 3
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Are Your Children Safe from Child-napping and Sexual Abuse?
Are Your Children Safe?
The Value of Remembering
Marjorie Rutherford: A Testimony to God's Faithfulness
Marjorie Conrad: A Testimony to God's Trustworthiness
Starting School Again
Dependence or Independence?
Breast Milk Made Especially for Your Child
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My Space, My Time, My Needs
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A Mother's Influence
A Mother of Boys
Prepare for the Lord: Thoughts for Moms from Exodus 19