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Do You Like Your Husband?

My husband tells me every day he loves me. But he also tells me that he likes me. There’s a difference.
We, as women, get to nitpicking. Know where that word comes from?
Nitpicking is “the act of removing nits (the eggs of lice, generally head lice) from the host’s hair.”
The image of some monkey digging through another monkey’s head comes to mind. It doesn’t make me want to emulate their actions.
But as women, we do this to our husbands.  Nitpicking is “looking for small or unimportant errors or faults, especially in order to criticize unnecessarily. Or fussy fault-finding.”
We do it without thinking. Our husbands do something, again, that bothers us. Then we start to list all the things they do that are annoying. Soon all we can remember is how inconsiderate, insensitive and unloving they are.
After we’ve attacked everything they are and do, how can we love them, let alone like them?
Sometimes, we can fix things that bother us just by  rearranging the situation. If he squeezes the toothpaste from the middle and you like it neatly squeezed from the bottom of the tube, buy two tubes. He can use his and you have yours. If he can’t walk his underwear over to the laundry basket that's by the door, move the basket where he dresses. Make it easy for him to do things that won’t annoy you.
He doesn't do it because he hates you.
He's not vindictively trying to make you angry.
He doesn’t even do it intentionally to bug you, (even without lice).
He does it without thinking. He probably doesn’t even know he’s doing it…even if you’ve told him.
He just does it.
Remember that.
We can’t change our husbands. We must accept who we’ve married and what they’ve become.
Instead, we must focus on what we like about them.
Having trouble thinking of anything?
Go back to before the wedding. What qualities did you admire? How did he treat you? What did he do to make you feel special?
Make a list. Use that list as a thank you list to God for your husband. Write a note to your husband telling him why you married him and why he is special.
Keep the list in your Bible or post it by your kitchen sink to remind you to be thankful. Rehearse those thank you's throughout the day.
Those qualities that endeared you to your husband, for example his patience, are now the very thing you dislike, he’s so patient he procrastinates. His strengths have become weaknesses to you.
Refocus on his strengths. Thank him. And thank God.
As I thank God for my husband, my list grows. I learn to appreciate his provision, his talents, his protection. That appreciation grows to help me look over those annoying things he does that bothers me.  
Growing a thankful heart will take away discontent, both for your husband and for your situation. And thankfulness is pleasing to God.
Complaining on the other hand is a sin God despises. 
You aren’t thankful as you nitpick.
Do you want to be that monkey nitpicking?
Don’t let your husband bug you.
It’s nits or thanks.
You choose.


Why do you like your husband?