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               Sonya Contreras

Are You Tired of Being a Mom?

Do you struggle to like your husband?
Do you wonder why bother with church?
Do these verses apply to you?
“I know your deeds and your toil and perseverance and that you cannot tolerate evil men, and you put to the test those who call themselves apostles, and they are not, and you found them to be false; and you have perseverance and have endured for My name’s sake, and have not grown weary” (Revelation 2:2-3).

You find yourself saying, “That’s me raising my children. I won’t allow them to misbehave. I make sure they tell me the truth.”
You wonder what God will say to encourage you.
Read on.
“But I have this against you, that you have left your first love” (Revelation 2:4).

The things that once brought joy are now drudgery.
Your child’s silliness that made you laugh before is now an interruption.
You have left your first love.

What about with your husband?
Do you enjoy his presence? Or you can’t wait for him to leave for work.
You have left your first love.

What about church?
Going to church was the highlight of your week. Now it’s an obligation, especially with the problems of getting the kids ready. Why bother?
You have left your first love.

What’s God solution?
Here’s what He says,
“Remember from where you have fallen, and repent and do the deeds you did at first” (Revelation 2:5a).

Repent?! From what?
“Remember from where you have fallen.”

An attitude of entitlement has no room with thankfulness and gratefulness. When you expect certain rewards, or demand blessings, or expect others to do something because you do what you should, your motivation quickly changes. You don’t want to bother with those things that you first willingly did. They owe you! That entitlement consumes you and you no longer sacrifice when things don’t seem worth it.

When you held that baby in your arms for the first time, you would have sacrificed your life for him.
When you said, “I do,” you would have walked with that man through fire, water or death.
When you first became a Christian, you would have told the world.

What happened?
You have left your first love.
It is a choice.
It is an action.

How do you get back to that first commitment?
Repent. But then:
Do the deeds you did at first.”

What did you do without thinking or counting the cost, because you wanted to, because you loved that child, you loved that man, you loved being with God’s people…
Do them again.

But you say, “The feelings are gone. I don’t love him. I don’t want to try.”
Have you repented?

What happens if you don’t repent, and don’t choose to do those deeds again?
Read the next verse.
Or else I am coming to you and will remove your lampstand out of its place—unless you repent” (Revelation 2:5b).
[In the context, it does address a church group, not an individual, but the sin with its warning is still real in this application.]

But you say, “Look what I’ve done. I’ve stood for right. I’ve persevered when it was hard. I’ve been through so much with this child, or with my husband, or with this church. They need to give some. They need to meet me half-way. They…”

God says, “Repent.” That would be you.
You are the one who has forgotten where you have fallen.
You are the one who has left your first love.
You are demanding without love. You are expecting without giving. You are…
It’s a choice. A matter of the will. An action.
The feeling doesn’t come back without those things.

Are you tired of being a mom?
Repent and do the deeds you did at first.”
And God, the righteous Judge, will reward and give back your joy and love for what He has called you to do.


How do you keep your first love for mothering, for being a wife, for being a Christian?

So much good insight here. Thank you!

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Author of Biblical fiction, married to my best friend, and challenged by eight sons’ growing pains as I write about what matters.

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